Honesty in style

When it comes to your best girl friends, honesty is most likely a large part of your relationship. Review sincere when it comes to their love lives and requests for fashion, not even that hard. But when it comes to their appearance, it is complicated. As a publisher of beauty, I am often asked by my friends on the nail polish suitable for their skin or the thoughts of their discount and if so, I give my best opinion editor of beauty. But when he is not asked, is it your place to talk about lipstick a shade unflattering, an obvious line of bases, or sperm-shaped eyebrows? I asked a clinical psychologist Vivian Diller, co-author of Face It: What women really feel the change in their Looks, (Hay House) for the best way to approach this situation. "You want to be helpful to friends of their appearance without being hypercritical,"

"First of all consider what kind of friendship you have. Not all relationships are close enough to tolerate even useful constructive criticism. A friend you have known a long time, you grew up with or you have been through a lot with these friendships can absorb much more than the new ones, colleagues or acquaintances, "said Diller. "With the latter, stay away from opinions on appearance. It's just too intimate. With a good friend, it helps by first asking, 'Are you interested in hearing my opinion on something? It clear it's just your opinion. "

"But even with good friends, it is important to consider how self-esteem is based on its appearance. Everyone self-esteem is partly due to their appearance, but some women are more sensitive about it than others . If you have a good friend who is very sensitive to its appearance, try to say something positive about it but said that you think she could do better, "advises Diller." For example, if you think his jeans are too tight, you could say, "Hey, this sweater looks great, but I loved it when you wear with this skirt rather than jeans. Or try to say something in general, so that the comment does not seem too personal. If you do not like the shade of lipstick of your friend is wearing, you can say, "I wore red to pale lips the other day while at Sephora and someone told me bright red is back in. " The Bottom Line: "Just keep in mind that friendship is more important than how someone looks, but since looks do matter, a good friend will appreciate that you want to look its best if you said thoughtfully.